Boatie

Say the real thing.
A real human shows up.

For busy parents, people far from home, and anyone who wants real connection but keeps leaving it to chance.

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A letter from Peggy

Hi there,

In my 30s I felt real connection get scarce. Not from caring less, but from having less time and less bandwidth. So I am building toward a world where genuine human connection is easier to find, to experience, and to grow.

Boatie is the result of years of studying how people connect, coaching others, and my own search for belonging.

You have my word on two things.

  • AI where it helps, people where it matters. I am not interested in keeping you in a chat with AI all day. AI in Boatie is to help us talk to each other more.
  • I am not in this for a quick win. My dream is to keep working on this mission. I will never make Boatie worse for you in order to make more money. And I will never sell your data.

Boatie is early, and your feedback means a lot. Here is my LinkedIn, and my calendar if you would rather talk.

Peggy Pan

Sound familiar?

We see everything. We know nothing.
Linda2h

Big news. New role, new city 🎉

♥ 128●14 comments

You liked it. You still have no idea how she is.

The real thing goes unsent.
Davidlong-distance friend
Aug 20
yo how's everything?
things with Amy have been really bad. we fight constantly and i think she might actually be done with me

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I'm okay! How about you?
It helps. It is not someone who knows you.
AI chat11:48 pm
she screamed for an hour tonight and i just stood in the hallway and cried
i love her so much and i still have no idea if i am any good at this
Standing in the hallway crying after an hour like that does not mean you are failing. It means you were holding something hard on your own.
yeah
How it works

A weekly exchange with one real person.

Boatie asks the honest question, carries your answer to one person, and brings you someone else's. You end the week less alone.

Every Sunday

Boatie checks in with you.

A question the people who care about you would genuinely want to hear you answer. When there is more underneath, Boatie asks.

Why this way

Better connection with others starts with knowing where you actually are.

Boatie
Hey Maggie. What has been weighing on you lately?
0:47
I heard some uncertainty in there. Is it the work itself, or where it is taking you?
1:12
Later

One person gets your postcard. And one arrives for you.

Boatie writes it from your check-in and shows you who will want to get it. Nothing goes out until you say yes.

Why this way

Most people would show up for you. What they are missing is a way in.

Dear Nora,

This week I started admitting to myself that I do not want the life my career is building for me. A pivot at this age scares me. I have ideas, and all of them feel out of reach. I am not looking for advice, just someone who has been there.

From Maggie

When one arrives for you

Boatie helps you write back.

Say what you would actually say. Boatie offers gentle guidance when you want it, so you become the friend you already mean to be.

Why this way

AI can make you feel heard. Only another person can make you feel less alone.

If you were Nora
Boatie
Maggie's postcard is for you. You do not have to fix anything. Two lines is plenty.
What came up for you when you read it?
0:38
That is the part worth sending. Here it is, in your words.
Draft replyI left a job like that two years ago and I still think about it some days. The scariest part was saying it out loud, and you already did that. I am around if you want to talk it through.
Change anything?
I will send it. Thanks Boatie!

A year of this means plenty of little moments that fill your 💙, week after week.

We are each an island of our own.

We all carry a whole world within us.
Weather no one else can see from the shore.
So much of it we'd say out loud, if only someone asked at the right moment.

A map of the sea. You sit alone on your own island. James, Linda and Joey are on islands of their own, and a small sailboat travels the dotted routes running between them.

Boatie is the boat.

It goes back and forth between us and fills the gap in nurturing connection: the initiating, the real stuff, and the consistency.

Questions

You may be wondering

How does a postcard work?
You answer Boatie's question on Sunday. Boatie turns your answer into a short postcard, never your exact words, and shows it to you with the name of the one person it would go to. Nothing leaves until you say yes.
Who gets my postcard?
One person, chosen by Boatie and confirmed by a human on our side. Sometimes someone who knows you well. Sometimes someone just outside your circle, inside something you both trust. The approval message always tells you which before you decide.
Why would I want someone who does not know me to read it?
Because they often turn out to be the right person. Your closest people already know your story, and sometimes that makes a new thing harder to say out loud. Someone a step away hears it fresh, and they have usually been where you are.
What if nobody writes back?
Then you will not hear anything, and that is on us rather than on you. We only bring you your postcard once someone has answered it. Everyone who receives one is asked to respond, and Boatie helps them find the words, so silence should be rare.
How often will Boatie contact me?
A few times a week, and we promise not to be annoying. Boatie stops when it should. The check-in comes on Sunday, and the rest only happens when there is something real to bring you.
Do I need to download an app?
Not for now. Boatie comes to you by text and you answer right there. Later there will be a place to find your answers, your postcards, and other good stuff for connecting better.
Is Boatie free?
Part of Boatie will always be free, because quality connection should be for everyone.

Come on board.

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